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True forgiveness is sending love to those who did you wrong and in loving yourself unconditionally as well.

We all bring out the best or worst in each other. Scenarios are played out all the time, to show us where we are ‘coming from.’
If we look at a situation with the thoughts
‘What am I learning here?
How would the very best part of me respond?
Then we take the ‘sting’ out of the equation. We don’t see ourselves as a ‘victim’ we see ourselves as ‘becoming’ for we are always offered opportunities to grow and learn.

Think back on a past scenario you had with someone close, who brought out the feelings of anger, resentment, rage, humiliated, distant or hurt in you. You could feel yourself build the brick wall around your heart to protect yourself and to stop the pain that stewed in your mind and body, every time you thought of the incident or heard the persons name.

Dr. Wayne Dyer once said ‘It’s not the snake bite that kills you, it’s the venom that runs through your veins.’ This is really something worth reflecting upon. We are with ourselves every moment of every day and we are the ones who carry around the hurt and suffering, the pain and blame.

If we look at life through the ‘eyes of forgiveness’ through the ‘heart of forgiveness’ we see the whole scenario from a different perspective. We come from ‘love’ instead of ‘fear’ – love being all the positives in life and fear of course, being the negatives. As we love, we feel lighter and brighter and this is felt within every cell of our body – we were created to ‘feel good!’ Feeling good is a healthy and productive energy isn’t it?

It’s up to us whether we forgive or not. We may say “I forgive” yet are we still carrying around the negatives?

A good way to approach the scenario is to see that everyone comes from their own perspective in life and we may or may not agree with where that person is coming from. We don’t walk each other’s paths and so we don’t really know why a person chooses to act or respond the way they do.

If we look at the scenario with ‘What am I learning here?’ We open to ‘compassion’ a beautiful value/aspect of love that is kind and comforting to the heart.

We may be learning to stand on our own two feet (self worth) We may be learning to let go of a pattern we’ve been carrying around for a long time… Perhaps we might be challenged to respond in a way that is less confronting… Perhaps we are learning that patience is what is required or perhaps it’s just to be more flexible…

Next time you encounter a situation that offers you an opportunity to see just how forgiving you are, take a moment to reflect and progress. Accept the way you feel and remember, no one ‘made you feel this way’ this came from you. Own your feelings, acknowledge your feelings, and then ask yourself “what am I learning here?”

Perhaps take a moment in your spare time to write and write and move that energy from what’s been stewing inside of you to putting it down onto paper and then what you choose to do with it is up to you. Releasing in a positive way is a very health and loving thing to do for yourself. If you can’t forgive the person face to face, use your imagination and visualise what it is you would like to say to them
“I feel angry/upset/disappointed… when you… for this again is moving you forward.

True forgiveness is offering love to the person and gratitude for the whole scenario. This is taking forgiveness one step further for it is a gift from your heart to theirs. A loving gift. As a buddy, they have played their role well supporting you generously in helping you grow and learn. If the scenario didn’t happen, you would not have the opportunity to learn more about yourself, let go – release your pain and blame and love unconditionally.

Here’s two songs of mine regarding this beautiful value:

‘Forgive yourself and move forward, we all deserve a happy day
Forgive yourself and move forward, doesn’t matter what others might say
Forgive yourself and move forward, let go of your pain and your blame
Forgive yourself and move forward, let your heart shine bright once again.’

‘Today is a good day to say “I’m sorry.”
If I’ve hurt someone or if I’ve been unkind.
For when I am sorry I can start again,
I will feel happy, I’ll feel good inside.
“I’m sorry, I’m sorry. Let’s be friends, let’s start again.
I’m sorry, I’m sorry. Let’s be friends, let’s start again.”

We are all children at heart, we all wish to be cared for and loved unconditionally.

Be the ‘gift of forgiveness’ this holiday season.
You can’t change another yet you can change yourself
and respond in a positive, uplifting, loving way and… this then creates change around you in positive ‘uplifting/loving’ ways…


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